Dating apps are like a supermarket—everyone wants the freshest, most exciting product, but most people just sit on the shelf waiting to be picked. 😆 Tinder, Bumble, Hinge—it’s a battlefield where 90% of conversations end with "Read [00:12 AM]" and zero replies.
I used to be that guy who sent "Hey, how are you?" and wondered why no one responded. Then I ran an experiment…
What Guys Actually Send (Spoiler: It’s Painfully Boring) 🚨
I made a fake female Tinder profile (yes, I was that bored). Listed interests: travel, books, fitness. Within an hour—50+ messages. And guess what? 98% were copy-paste cringe.
Top 5 Messages That Guarantee Ghosting:
"Hey :)" (…and then what? You expect her to carry the convo?)
"How are you?" (She gets this 200 times a day. She hates it.)
"What are you up to?" (She’s on Tinder. What do you think?)
"Can I get to know you?" (Bro, you’re literally messaging her. Why ask?)
"You’re so beautiful 😍" (She hears this daily. It means nothing.)
Bonus fails:
"Wanna meet up?" (You don’t even know her name.)
"What’s your number?" (Sure, let me hand it to a stranger.)
"You’re so sexy" (Congrats, now you’re "that guy.")
Why This Doesn’t Work
When a girl opens Tinder, she sees:
📌 50 "Hey"s
📌 20 "How are you?"s
📌 10 "You’re pretty"
📌 5 "Let’s meet"
Which ones stand out? Exactly—none of them.
How to Actually Get Replies 🎯
1. Never Start With "Hey" (Seriously)
Your first message is your elevator pitch. "Hey" is like showing up to a job interview and saying, "So… I exist."
Try these instead:
"You’re in Paris in your 3rd pic? I went last year—still dream about those croissants." (Instant topic.)
"You like ‘Game of Thrones’? Who were you mad at in the finale? (I’m still not over it.)"
"If your profile was a pizza, it’d be extra pepperoni with a side of danger. I’m intrigued." (Yes, this works.)
2. Skip the Interview Mode
After "Hey," most guys go:
How are you?
What do you do?
Where are you from?
That’s an interrogation, not a conversation.
Better options:
"If we went on a date right now, where would you take me?"
"If you had a superpower for 24 hours, what would you do? (I’d abolish student loans.)"
"What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done? (I once ate a whole pizza in 10 minutes. No regrets.)"
3. Don’t Rush It
Some guys after 2 messages:
"Let’s move to Insta."
"What’s your number?"
"Meet me tomorrow?"
Slow down. She doesn’t even know you yet.
4. Your Photos Make or Break You
If your profile has:
1 blurry selfie (in a dark room)
A pic from 2012
A photo with your ex (cropped, but we see her hand on your shoulder)
You’ve already lost.
The Ideal Profile:
✅ 3-5 clear photos (face, hobbies, full-body)
✅ No bathroom mirror selfies
✅ No fish pics (unless you’re a marine biologist)
What to Do If You’re Ghosted?
Don’t double-text "Why’d you stop replying?" (Fastest way to get blocked.)
Don’t spam her (If she doesn’t reply in a day, move on.)
Don’t take it personally (Maybe she’s just not feeling it.)
Remember: Tinder is like Black Friday shopping. If you’re just another "Hey," you’re the 10%-off coupon nobody uses.
Final Tips to Avoid Ghosting
✔ First message = something interesting, not "Hey."
✔ Ask fun questions, not job interviews.
✔ Don’t ask for her number too soon.
✔ Fix your profile (good photos + bio = more matches).
Most importantly—don’t obsess over one match. Message 10 girls, 2-3 will reply. That’s how online dating works.
Good luck out there! May your matches be plentiful and your ghosting minimal. 💪🔥
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